Each
stage of Balinese life is marked by a series of ceremonies and rituals
known as Manusa Yadnya. They contribute to the rich, varied and active
life the average Balinese leads.
Birth
The first
ceremony of Balinese life takes place even before birth. Another
ceremony takes place soon after the birth, during which the afterbirth
is buried with appropriate offerings. The first major ceremony takes
place halfway through the baby's first Balinese year of 210 days.
Names
Basically the Balinese only have four first names. The first child
is Wayan or Putu, the second child is Made or Kadek, the third is
Nyoman or Komang and the fourth is Ketut. The fifth, sixth, seventh,
eighth and ninth will be another Wayan, Made, Nyoman, Ketut and Wayan
again.
Childhood
The Balinese certainly love
children and they have plenty of them to prove it. Coping with a large
family is made much easier by the policy of putting younger children in
the care of older ones. After the ceremonies of babyhood come ceremonies
marking the stages of childhood and puberty, including the important
tooth-filing ceremony.
Marriage
Every Balinese
expects to marry and raise a family, and marriage takes places at a
comparatively young age. Marriages are not, in general, arranged as they
are in many other Asian communities although strict rules apply to
marriages between the castes. There are two basic forms of marriage in
Bali - mapadik and ngorod. The respectable form, in which the family of
the man visit the family of the woman and politely propose that the
marriage take place, is mapadik. The Balinese, however, like their fun
and often prefer marriage by elopement (ngorod) as the most exciting
option. Of course, the Balinese are also a practical people so nobody is
too surprised when the young man spirits away his bride-to-be, even if
she loudly protests about being kidnapped. The couple go into hiding and
somehow the girl's parents, no matter how assiduously they search,
never manage to find her. Eventually the couple re-emerge, announce that
it is too late to stop them now, the marriage is officially recognized
and everybody has had a lot of fun and games. Marriage by elopement has
another advantage apart from being exciting and mildly heroic it's
cheaper.
The Household
There are many modern
Balinese houses, but there are still a great number of traditional
Balinese homes. The streets of Ubud; nearly every house will follow the
same traditional walled design.
Men & Women
There are certain tasks clearly to be handled by women, and others
reserved for men. Social life in Bali is relatively free and easy. In
Balinese leisure activities the roles are also sex differentiated. Both
men and women dance but only men play the gamelan. Today you do see some
women painters, sculptors, and woodcarvers.
Community Life
Balinese have an amazingly active and organized village life. You
simply cannot be a faceless nonentity in Bali. You can't help but get to
know your neighbors as your life is so entwined and interrelated with
theirs.
Death & Cremation
There are ceremonies
for every stage of Balinese life but often the last
ceremony-cremation-is the biggest. A Balinese cremation can be an
amazing, spectacular, colorful, noisy and exciting event. In fact it
often takes so long to organize a cremation that years have passed since
the death. During that time the body is temporarily buried. Of course
an auspicious day must be chosen for the cremation and since a big
cremation can be very expensive business many less wealthy people may
take the opportunity of joining in at a larger cremation and sending
their own dead on their way at the same time. Brahmans, however, must be
cremated immediately. Apart from being yet another occasion for
Balinese noise and confusion it's a fine opportunity to observe the
incredible energy the Balinese put into creating real works of art which
are totally ephemeral. A lot more than a body gets burnt at the
cremation. The body is carried from the burial ground (or from the
deceased's home if it's an 'immediate' cremation) to the cremation
ground in a high, multi-tiered tower made of bamboo, paper, string,
tinsel, silk, cloth, mirrors, flowers and anything else bright and
colorful you can think of. The tower is carried on the shoulders of a
group of men, the size of the group depending on the importance of the
deceased and hence the size of the tower. The funeral of a former rajah
high priest may require hundreds of men to tote the tower.
A
long the way to the cremation ground certain precautions must be taken
to ensure that the deceased's spirit does not find its way back home.
Loose spirits around the house can be a real nuisance. To ensure this
doesn't happen requires getting the spirits confused as to their
whereabouts, which you do by shaking the tower, running it around in
circles, spinning it around, throwing water at it, generally making the
trip to the cremation ground anything but a stately funeral crawl.
Meanwhile, there's likely to be a priest halfway up to tower, hanging on
grimly as it sways back and forth, and doing his best to soak
bystanders with holy water. A gamelan sprints along behind, providing a
suitably exciting musical accompaniment. Camera-toting tourists get all
but run down and once again the Balinese prove that ceremonies and
religion are there to be enjoyed. At the cremation ground the body is
transferred to a funeral sarcophagus, this should be in the shape of a
bull for a Brahmana, a winged lion for a Satria and a sort of
elephant-fish for a Sudra. These days, however, almost anybody from the
higher castes will use a bull. Finally up it all goes in flames funeral
tower, sarcophagus, body, the lot. The eldest son does his duty by
poking through the ashes to ensure that there are no bits of body left
unburned. And where does your soul go after your cremation? Why, to a
heaven which is just like Bali!